We all know about love bombing, but spotlighting is a much subtler form of psychological manipulation. — We all know about love bombing, but spotlighting is a much subtler form of psychological manipulation. Spotlighting is an unconscious attempt of the abandoned male to both receive and protect from love. When we do not receive the love we have needed early on, we will do anything to get…

On the day of the first Covid lockdown, I didn’t have time for my own experience. — On the day of the first Covid lockdown, I didn’t have time for my own experience. The clinic phones were ringing hot with distressed patients. My inbox was flooded with concerned emails. My social media inbox was full of people asking for tips to soothe anxiety. My admin team was…

As we continue to move through these uncertain times, experiences of disruption and disorganization are surfacing through the layers of… — As we continue to move through these uncertain times, experiences of disruption and disorganization are surfacing through the layers of our experience. In relationships, this is showing up as either conflict, discord and for some the decision to disengage or end relationships that are no longer resonating. This can cause…

When it comes to any form of healing, recovery, or transformation, change occurs in pockets, layers, and non-linearity. — When it comes to any form of healing, recovery, or transformation, change occurs in pockets, layers, and non-linearity. Through years of process, recovering from physical and mental illness, I learned to look for the telltale signs of progress and imminent change, and create a conscious container for integration. …

Vulnerability is scary, but it’s essential for connection. — Vulnerability is scary, but it’s essential for connection. Connection is fundamental to our ability to survive and thrive. When we don’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we block ourselves from the connection. From real, honest, intimate connection. The place where we can be seen, heard, and cared for. We protect…

There was once when I was at the gym, my trainer started talking about the inevitability of World War III. He was reflecting after watching… — There was once when I was at the gym, my trainer started talking about the inevitability of World War III. He was reflecting after watching the latest news of the conflict between the US and China. As he shared, I felt a familiar grief well inside me. The world we…

Self-deprivation has sat at humanity’s core for many generations. — Self-deprivation has sat at humanity’s core for many generations. As we shift towards living in an endemic world, the plague of self-abandonment is ready to resolve. We are learning that we have to look after ourselves, and develop a sustainable way of living and relating. The great hand of Covid…

The body of life. Body consciousness. The wisdom of the body. — The body of life. Body consciousness. The wisdom of the body. These are all simplified expressions of Soma. In Greek, the word Soma evolved to mean ‘the body living in its wholeness.’ It is also a word biologists use to distinguish the whole living body from its chromosomes alone. Expanding awareness of our wholeness The last century has expanded upon Charles Darwin’s theory of evolution to…

Connection — Connection Your ability to feel safe and authentic with your therapist is the single most important thing that will ignite your healing process! If you feel welcome, not judged, relaxed and calm, this is a good sign! If you feel suspicious, protective, and unable to relax, this could indicate that…